GENOTYPE DILEMMA

Hello RTers, my name is Lucy (not real name), I am 34 years old from Kogi. I am so depressed I really don't know how to start this story. The last few days have been my saddest in this Planet and I’ve been really sad in this life! You see, I was born into a decent family with four children (2 girls and 2 boys), me being the first child. My younger sister married 8 years ago, my younger brothers are also married, leaving just me. I really don't know how I ended up in my family, sometimes I wonder if I was even adopted. My parents are very decent looking in appearance and my siblings too, but somehow everything about me is just opposite to them. I’m 4 feet 4 inches tall, skinny, dark and well.... facially I know I’m not that pretty. To make matters worse, I’m also ‘flat’ in front and behind. This physique has always been my challenge in life, giving me some level of inferiority complex and all that. It was always very difficult to see a man gaze at me with those eyes that tells you he likes you. I do have my good sides though, for one, I think I’m one of the nicest and caring humans on earth (not to sound proud but that’s the truth).

I dated just one guy all through my University days and the relationship only lasted for 3 weeks. I though I was really lucky then to have him, but it turned out he only wanted me for what he could get out of me. I’m still a virgin, and I still strongly advocate for 'No to Pre-marital sex' regardless of the few opportunities I’ve had to take advantage and experience it.

To cut a long sad story short, I met a very nice guy (Obus) about 8 months ago in a church, it still surprises me how God works, because I really don’t know what such an amazing handsome man sees in me, but the way he looks at me... gosh! You’d know he really cares for me, and he has shown me that both in words and action in the last few months. He is also very stable financially, not that that matters so much to me, because I’m also very okay financially. He proposed to me 2 weeks ago in the most romantic way I could imagine, I was simply blown away and I joyfully accepted.

During the course of our relation, we never discussed about our genotypes. I knew I was AS but it was never something I dwelt on, considering the fact I rarely met a guy for serious relationship let alone marriage. And so my sweet joy was dashed when he asked me what my genotype was in a media chat, I froze! I had completely forgotten about that aspect of me when it came to relationships/marriages. I was so scared that he would be AS (for him to have been concerned about it) that I went blank for a few seconds, I really don’t know what came over me that made me typed ‘AA’ and he responded by saying: 'Thank God, cause I'm AS'. My heart Stopped!

It's been a week now and I haven't been myself. I have cried so much fearing the worst. So this is the end, isn't it? I know I have to tell him the truth or shouldn't I? Am I going to lose the man I love so much; the only man who worships me just because of our genotype? Should I persuade him for us to go ahead regardless and face the odds? Should we marry and instead adopt if we don’t want to risk having a SS child? Will he even agree? If we break up, will I ever meet another man that cherishes me like him? 

Dear RTers, I need your advice, I am so depressed and going mad with my thoughts, if there is any hope for us to remain together I will so gladly take it.