Hi RTers,
my name is Julie (not real name) a 400L undergraduate in one of the
universities in Nigeria. My best friend got married last week Saturday and I
was her chief Bridesmaid. During the wedding I was just practically in
trance, for the Groom to my best friend; Harry (not real name) had kissed me a night
before and I didn’t know how to react in the best interest of everyone. There
were no words, just that kiss that stunned me all over.
I was more or less the 'middle-woman'
between my friend and Harry during our earlier years in the university. When he was asking her out, it was through me,
when she wouldn't date him, I was the one who urged her to give him a chance. I admired Harry for
who he is or was and thought my friend was really lucky to have him doting over her,
but that was just it. I never for once wished him for myself or tried to
complicate things between them. I never once took advantage of the fact that they
always called me to help them sort their issues out, that was just how simple
our relationship was.
When he proposed to her, I was the one who helped organised
the surprised party. Considering how close we are, it was no surprised when she made me her chief Bridesmaid, and I was very involved in the wedding preparation. We were lodged in one
big hotel, and it was during the wedding night when I went to get my friend’s Ipad from his room that it happened. After a simple small chat during which
he was getting the Ipad, I made to leave, then I heard him say ‘wait’, as I
turned around, his lips descended on mine. I was just too shocked to react, I
couldn’t believe what was happening, the kiss lasted for like 10 seconds, and
then he left me and walked into the bathroom. Still stunned I managed to leave
and went to my room. I didn’t even go to my friend’s room again for fear I may
blurt out what had just happened.
I kept thinking; Did he
have feelings for me? Or was it out of gratitude for all I’ve for them? I
really didn't know what the kiss meant. He totally avoided looking at me during
the wedding and I was somewhat glad. I couldn't bring myself to tell my friend
for fear of what could happen to the wedding. He had been a great guy, but I
couldn’t understand why he did that, I liked him as a nice guy, but being my
friend’s man, I have never entertained the thought of having anything with him.
Dear
RTers, what should I do now? Act like it never happened? If I don't tell my
friend, won't it be like a betrayer if she heard about this later (if it ever came up)? Can it just
be a one-off-thing or would he try it again if I did nothing? She’s my best
friend and I know I’d have to see them soon. Please I need your advice on how
best to handle this situation. Thanks
Let them be and avoid the groom as much as u can. should he try it again, don't hesitate to tell ur friend.
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