Hi RTers, I am Oluchi by name, I got married a
year ago to my husband. I just want your advice on an issue regarding him and his ex (or friend as he now calls her). They dated for about a year before
distance ended their relationship, as she travelled abroad for her Masters.
However they remained friends and he told me about her while we were dating.
Then I didn’t see it as a big deal even when they chatted and was never interested, but lately she has
been reaching out to him more often and be talking to him in ways that I don't
find appropriate. Although from their chats, I admit see the effort my husband tries
to put to end such inappropriate discussions but I still don’t appreciate such
friendship.
She talks a lot about their past escapades, how
it would have been if they had stayed together and had kids, how their kids
would have looked like. She asked my hubby if I was pregnant yet (am not). She cropped me off a picture my hubby and I
took and told him, that was how she viewed the picture (meaning I don't exist
to her). She also to him how she was dying so say some naughty things (probably sensing my
hubby wasn’t encouraging her much when she initiates such talk) but my hubby
stopped her annoyingly in teasing way.
I confronted my hubby about it all, that I wasn't
cool with their friendship, but all he said was that he was sorry; seemingly apologising on her behalf. I told him to delete her from his BBM contacts but he
refused, for reason he best understands; claiming they were just friends and
she’s not a threat. Yes, even if she isn’t a threat, is it right to entertain such
flirtish talks from her?
Dear RTers, what do you think? I know she's far away, does that mean I am over
reacting? I need your advice please.
You didn't over react certainly, your husband should cut such ties with his ex,except he's getting something from her. You Shud probe more.
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